It's interesting what life can offer you. There was once you were alone...you were fine...you do and deal with things your way. No one to consider but yourself. Life was just so much simpler, less complicated. Then one day you meet someone, he comes into your life, he enhances your life. You find yourself building your life between the two of you. Adjusting yourself to accomodate the other. You become co-dependent to one another and unconsciously lose yourself. He gives you warmth, security and pain too. But overall, he makes you happy. Next thing you know, he's gone. It's all over and you're back again on your own. The dilemma is you've forgotten how to be alone again, how you were on you're own. You then re-assess things, ponder on your realizations. You try to find yourself again, the part of you you've lost.

When you enter a relationship, you can't help but to lose yourself somehow. I don't believe with what other people say about not losing yourself when you fall in love. I think, whether you like it or not, you will lose yourself one way or another. You enter into a partnership, both of you makes an impact in each other's lives, you influence each other...you change in the process. When the partnership ends and your on your own, that's when you realize you have changed. You're not the same old person you were before you met the person. You realize your ex-partners' influence in you. Also, you realize you've lost the independence. You forgot how to be alone again. How to cope with things on your own. How to make weekends exciting once again by yourself. This is the very part of you you have lost since you didn't have to worry about this while you were in a relationship. But eventually, knowing how to be on your own again will just come back to you...just like learning how to ride a bicycle. You haven't done it for a while but once you try to ride once again, it will come back to you.